Growing up, I was very shy and afraid of talking to anyone. I avoided social situations and spent most of my time watching TV and playing video games.
Today I have the confidence to talk to anybody. I can talk to a complete stranger and turn them into a friend. Here are the 3 things that I did to transform myself from shy guy to Mr. Confident.
1. Develop a burning desire
I hated the fact that I was shy and afraid of people.
I didn't like being bullied in school, and I didn't like that I cared so much about what other people thought of me.
The pain of my situation gave me a strong desire to change.
Find something about your current situation that you are absolutely disgusted with. What is not having confidence costing you in your life? Let that be motivation for you.
2. Seek the Right Information and People
I've read books like "How to Win Friends and Influence People" and "How to Have Power and Confidence In Dealing with People". These books taught me about human psychology and people skills.
Along with books, you have access to online content that can teach you these subjects.
I also started hanging around people that were confident and had great social skills.
I joined organizations like Toastmasters and professional groups that were focused on sales and business.
By putting myself in rooms with people that had the traits that I wanted, I became just like them.
3. Take massive action
I built a habit of talking to people everywhere I went. Supermarkets, gyms, coffee shops. I made it a goal to talk to at least one stranger every day.
I also attended networking events around my city so that I could force myself to talk to more people.
This was really hard for me at first, but with consistent daily effort, tapping into that burning desire, and getting encouragement from my peers, I overcame my social anxiety. I became an extremely confident and likable person, and if I can do it, you can do it too!
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